Lois Zsarnay
LMFT, BCPC, RD
Articles in "communication"

Parents Need to Teach Resiliency and Distress Tolerance in Children

by Lois Zsarnay, LMFT, BCPC, RD

Children who grow up to be “successful” in life learned resiliency and distress tolerance, especially if they were born with sensitive temperaments.

Practicing Relationship Communication Skills Improves Understanding

by Lois Zsarnay, LMFT, BCPC, RD

Effectively communicating with another person takes lots of practice as well as a commitment to working at it over your life time until there is a better understanding that leads to a mutually respectful relationship.

Couples Counseling about How We Choose to Respond – Part 4

by Lois Zsarnay, LMFT, BCPC, RD

During marriage counseling sessions we work on the communication skills to be able to consciously respond to their partner’s messages rather than being reactive or impulsive which can add to a feeling of being out of control. It is the typical statement we often hear that “he/she MADE me angry” (or upset or hurt or mad, etc.). If you want to take back your power so no one can MAKE YOU FEEL a certain way, then this is a critical skill to practice!

Ventura Marriage Counseling, Communication Skills, Intention to Understand

by Lois Zsarnay, LMFT, BCPC, RD

Part 1 is realistic expectations of ourselves and others. Part 2 starts with the INTENTION to communicate my needs and wants in a way my partner can truly hear and understand as well as my intention to really try to hear and understand what my partner is communicating to me. It is like visiting another country where they don't speak our language - both people have to make the EFFORT to try to communicate and meet the other person part way, otherwise the message will probably get lost or misunderstood!