Couples marriage or relationship counseling with Ventura Therapist Lois Zsarnay, LMFT, CEDS, CCTP, EMDR, BCPC, RD

When I have expectations of someone else then I am setting myself up for frustration, disappointment and upset because they are not me so they don’t think like me, behave…

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Is it Perfectionism or People Pleasing Behavior or Anxiety or Is It Really a Coping Mechanism?

Our thoughts and beliefs often fall into patterns that then direct our behaviors.  When someone comes in and says, "I feel like I am never good enough" they are often…

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Family relationship conflicts, unrealistic expectations or the family we choose with radical acceptance

One of the challenges we often face as we grow older is coming to terms with our expectations of "family" versus what the reality is.  I often hear clients say…

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