What’s Important in Any Relationship is Whatever is Important to Them!

Couples often wait too long before coming in for counseling and the hurt feelings have been growing for a long time.  Whether it is marriage counseling or pre-marital counseling or…

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Practicing Relationship Communication Skills Improves Understanding

When my husband and my 25th wedding anniversary was approaching I happened to find this fun little book at the Hallmark store called Married for Life, Inspirations from those married 50…

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Couples marriage or relationship counseling with Ventura Therapist Lois Zsarnay, LMFT, CEDS, CCTP, EMDR, BCPC, RD

When I have expectations of someone else then I am setting myself up for frustration, disappointment and upset because they are not me so they don’t think like me, behave…

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Family relationship conflicts, unrealistic expectations or the family we choose with radical acceptance

One of the challenges we often face as we grow older is coming to terms with our expectations of "family" versus what the reality is.  I often hear clients say…

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