What is Normal Eating and How Do We Get Back to Eating Normally?
The best definition of “Normal Eating” I have seen comes from How to Get Your Kid to Eat … But Not Too Much (pp 69-70) by Ellyn Satter, RD (excellent book by…
Practicing Relationship Communication Skills Improves Understanding
When my husband and my 25th wedding anniversary was approaching I happened to find this fun little book at the Hallmark store called Married for Life, Inspirations from those married 50…
Couples Counseling about How We Choose to Respond – Part 4
Couples Counseling about How We Choose to Respond – Part 4 Once we have received the message from the other person then we need to process the message with an…
Marriage Therapy Part 3 – by Family Therapy Ventura
Marriage Therapy Part 3 - by Family Therapy Ventura Part 3 in this series on marriage counseling is about “pushing my buttons” that interferes with communicating the true message. It…
Diabulimia, the Eating Disorder You’ve Never Heard Of
Diabulimia, the Eating Disorder You've Never Heard Of In my 32 years practicing as a Registered Dietitian I have definitely seen the incidence of this practice increasing! Like the article…
Ventura Marriage Counseling, Communication Skills, Intention to Understand
Ventura Marriage Counseling - Communication Skills - Intention to Understand One of the challenges in marriage counseling is the way the two people communicate with each other. Are they only coming from…
Couples marriage or relationship counseling with Ventura Therapist Lois Zsarnay, LMFT, CEDS, CCTP, EMDR, BCPC, RD
When I have expectations of someone else then I am setting myself up for frustration, disappointment and upset because they are not me so they don’t think like me, behave…
Our Relationship with Food can be Healthy or Unhealthy, Functional or Dysfunctional, Disordered Eating or a Full on Eating Disorder
Our relationship with food or the process of eating is very complex. It stems from and relates to many aspects of ourselves, our culture, our family traditions, our past experiences,…
Is it Perfectionism or People Pleasing Behavior or Anxiety or Is It Really a Coping Mechanism?
Our thoughts and beliefs often fall into patterns that then direct our behaviors. When someone comes in and says, "I feel like I am never good enough" they are often…
Family relationship conflicts, unrealistic expectations or the family we choose with radical acceptance
One of the challenges we often face as we grow older is coming to terms with our expectations of "family" versus what the reality is. I often hear clients say…